Fear to require

by Arturo Ramo
April 27, 2011

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Any process of education involves the passage from being to what should be. It is based on the educational situation in which a child is, to reach a state of more perfection. To take this step the student usually needs the help of parents and teachers, because in itself tends to comfort, to the easy and the minimal effort. For the aid to be effective the teacher has to require with strength, but with affection, always seeking the good of the boy.

In modern times we find that some parents and teachers do not exercise this requirement that is needed to achieve education.

One reason is they think that the requirement is incompatible with tolerance and democracy and what's hot in the environment is to respect the freedom of children. One thing is the positive object of educating in freedom and for liberty and another is "laissez-faire, the shrug and leave the kids in the abandon. This is a dereliction of duty on the part of the teacher which produces in prejudice to the learner.

Sometimes parents say they are not trained to educate their children, who do not have sufficient knowledge of the subjects for helping them and such work is left to the teachers. With this approach fall into the error: An explanation of the school subjects is a priority task of teachers and parents is secondary, but the human formation and the acquisition of habits of conduct is a priority for parents and of subsidiary form for teachers. Hence it is clear that parents are the primary educators of their children and they have grace of state to carry out the education of the creatures that have engendered.

Some parents are hesitant to require to their small because they say they have no authority on them, and they do not obey and do not listen. In this case they must learn to gain in authority and achieve with good ways that their kids obey them. Some times parents do not require their children for fear of losing their love or fear of causing them trauma or look bad to the neighbors or friends. In these cases the parents love more themselves than their children and put their interest to their small. Affection does not mean over-indulgence or lack of exigency, because the affection, when is true, is linked to the requirement.

It is sad to see so many good parents, make miserable to their children by not requiring, thinking it is a manifestation of love, when in reality it is rather a form of weakness or of selfishness.

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