In the era of broken families, broken relationships, the family of ‘Sattan Guru’ is an example for the society.

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Varanasi, May 13 (Hindustan Times). India has considered the whole world as its family (Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam). There was a time in the country when people preferred to live in joint families. The bigger the family he had, the more prosperous and fortunate he was. That family had a special identity and social prestige in the whole area. But today it is unfortunate that joint families are breaking up in India itself.

Despite the growing trend of broken family, broken relationships, nuclear family, some people still have faith in the tradition of joint family which is going on from ancestral time. One such joint family belongs to educationist and senior Congress leader Satyanarayan Pandey ‘Sattan Guru’ in Jagatganj, Varanasi. Members of three generations live together under one roof and eat together.

The day begins with worshiping God and serving the cow.

The socially and economically prosperous family also has its own cow shed and stable. The family members start the day by worshiping God and serving the cow.

Highly educated daughters-in-law cook food in the same kitchen, shift shifts

In the Pandey family, food for more than forty members is cooked together in the kitchen. Under the supervision of senior female members of the family Prema Pandey and Maya Pandey, Neelima Pandey, Indira Pandey, Madhuri Pandey, shifts are tied for cooking and cutting vegetables of female members. Jayalakshmi Pandey, Priya, Shalini, Pratibha, Rekha, Neetu (all highly educated daughters-in-law) cooperate fully in this work. Lord Shaligram gets food after cooking. After this, the male members of the family and the children eat first. After this the women of the family eat food.

Spiritual happiness is found in joint family

Kalpana Pandey, sister of educationist Satyanarayan Pandey, says that there is a special atmosphere of love, affection, brotherhood and affinity among family members, seeing the warmth of relationships gives spiritual happiness. The eldest member in our family is Shyam Narayan Pandey. The head of the family is also there. It was not easy to tie such a big family in one thread. Elder brother Satyanarayan Pandey has an important role in keeping the family united. He has been doing this work continuously for the last fifty years. They keep teaching the respect of elders, the law of small and big.

three generations together

Satyanarayan Pandey told that our family has been living together since Baba’s time three generations ago. Our Baba Durga Prasad Pandey had three brothers. The families of Baba’s two brothers Munnu Pandey and Dhumavati Pandey also lived together. Among the three sons of Baba Durga Prasad Pandey, my father Late. The family of seven sons of Dr. Ganganath Pandey, elder brother Mr. Narayan Pandey, Shyam Narayan Pandey, Harinarayan Pandey, himself (Satyanarayan Pandey), Gopal Narayan Pandey, Ashok Pandey, Vinod Pandey and Ramnarayan Pandey’s son of elder father Ramautar Pandey lives together. The better half of our three brothers in the family is no longer in this world. In the family, our sons, brothers’ sons and daughters-in-law and their children live together. The young members of the family are also doing jobs and businesses in other cities.

Earlier mother used to take decisions, now brother does

Satya Narayan Pandey said that earlier the mother used to decide any work in the house, now she is no more in this world. Now elder brother Shyam Narayan Pandey does it. There is no restriction on anyone in the decision. Whatever decision is taken by them is valid.

Self centered life has to be abandoned for joint family.

Satyanarayan Pandey said that the symbol of prosperity in the society should be attached to the prestige of the family. In the changing times, a life focused on ‘self’ has to be abandoned. This privacy motivated the person to distance himself from the family. Ever since a person starts thinking about his son or daughter instead of his nephew or niece, joint families are broken.

Rifts start with the feeling of more and less contribution

People think that whose contribution in the family is more and whose contribution is less and from here the rift in joint families started. People think how my son should come out ahead and how should I start living my standard of living according to my earnings and this thinking has hurt the feeling of belongingness and brotherhood. We have reduced giving time and importance to our family. Due to this, the contempt of the elders increased and the children were neglected and the joint family started breaking up. There were cracks in the relationships. Eventually people split into nuclear families. In such a situation, people will have to make some sacrifices to maintain connection, trust, mutual understanding in home-family relations along with changing their thinking.

Communication is necessary for joint family

Avoid spending more time on social media. Today, the conversation in the family is stopping even through Facebook and WhatsApp. He said that the meaning of family is not complete just by living under one roof, along with understanding each other’s feelings, understanding each other, giving respect, participation in happiness and sorrow and helping family members. It is also important to keep

It is noteworthy that Family Day is celebrated every year on 15th May. Seeing the usefulness of the family, the United Nations General Assembly had decided to celebrate this day globally.

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